Comments for Reflections... http://mycontemplativemind.wordpress.com Just me... Wed, 21 May 2008 14:09:31 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 Comment on How do you know you’re really in love? by smiley http://mycontemplativemind.wordpress.com/2005/10/02/how-do-you-know-youre-really-in-love/#comment-61 smiley Wed, 21 May 2008 14:09:31 +0000 http://mycontemplativemind.wordpress.com/2005/10/02/how-do-you-know-youre-really-in-love/#comment-61 Thanks for sharing! I'm glad to hear that you felt a peace within you the next day. :) Take care! Thanks for sharing!

I’m glad to hear that you felt a peace within you the next day. :)

Take care!

]]> Comment on How do you know you’re really in love? by david http://mycontemplativemind.wordpress.com/2005/10/02/how-do-you-know-youre-really-in-love/#comment-60 david Thu, 15 May 2008 17:44:24 +0000 http://mycontemplativemind.wordpress.com/2005/10/02/how-do-you-know-youre-really-in-love/#comment-60 hi again. last week my girlfriend confronted me that something is wrong that she feels something is wrong in this relationship but doesn't know what. she told me that when she looks back in the past 2 years she thinks what has she got out of this relationship, and she was in a questioning phase basicly what i went through before. and we decided to take a break and the first day i felt really bad and sick to my stomach knowing that she might want to break up. well i meditated and went to bed and i could'nt sleep it was soooo hard, but i kept praying while i had my eyes closed and eventually i fell asleep and when i woke up i felt a peace and the fear of loss went away. I feel like i want to in my life but not sure if she is the one. and today i called her to check up on her and she said that she didn't feel really sick and bad as much as i did, and feels like she want to continue the break to reflect some more. and part of me wants to work it out and keep the relationship going but i also feel at peace if it doesn't work out because we both feel like we haven't impacted eachothers lives enough. anyways i just wanted to share that with you . hi again. last week my girlfriend confronted me that something is wrong that she feels something is wrong in this relationship but doesn’t know what. she told me that when she looks back in the past 2 years she thinks what has she got out of this relationship, and she was in a questioning phase basicly what i went through before. and we decided to take a break and the first day i felt really bad and sick to my stomach knowing that she might want to break up. well i meditated and went to bed and i could’nt sleep it was soooo hard, but i kept praying while i had my eyes closed and eventually i fell asleep and when i woke up i felt a peace and the fear of loss went away. I feel like i want to in my life but not sure if she is the one. and today i called her to check up on her and she said that she didn’t feel really sick and bad as much as i did, and feels like she want to continue the break to reflect some more. and part of me wants to work it out and keep the relationship going but i also feel at peace if it doesn’t work out because we both feel like we haven’t impacted eachothers lives enough. anyways i just wanted to share that with you .

]]> Comment on How do you know you’re really in love? by smiley http://mycontemplativemind.wordpress.com/2005/10/02/how-do-you-know-youre-really-in-love/#comment-59 smiley Sun, 04 May 2008 05:51:12 +0000 http://mycontemplativemind.wordpress.com/2005/10/02/how-do-you-know-youre-really-in-love/#comment-59 :) It's nice to know that things are turning for the better! I can only share with you my views. What happens from there is up to you. I'm glad you've found the reason behind all the uncertainty. No relationship is perfect. It's up to the two of you to make things work. The grass always look greener on the other side. I'm glad you noticed how green the grass is on your side before it's too late. Always take time to reflect and appreciate even the smallest things. :) All the best! :) It’s nice to know that things are turning for the better! I can only share with you my views. What happens from there is up to you. I’m glad you’ve found the reason behind all the uncertainty.

No relationship is perfect. It’s up to the two of you to make things work. The grass always look greener on the other side. I’m glad you noticed how green the grass is on your side before it’s too late.

Always take time to reflect and appreciate even the smallest things. :)

All the best!

]]> Comment on How do you know you’re really in love? by david http://mycontemplativemind.wordpress.com/2005/10/02/how-do-you-know-youre-really-in-love/#comment-58 david Mon, 28 Apr 2008 22:38:00 +0000 http://mycontemplativemind.wordpress.com/2005/10/02/how-do-you-know-youre-really-in-love/#comment-58 HI again. thank you for your reply, i really appreciate your help. Our break lasted a day or so and i called her back and said that it was too hard and we got back together. DUring the day i noticed all the great things about her, and what makes her special. I feel like the reason i think and feel differently about her is that at times i am bored in our relationship. ANd i find myself trying to make our relationship perfect, changing her etc.. I just want to be happy in this relationship and love her for you she is, and at the same time don't feel like im settling for less with her. Iv'e told her now that i want to slow things down and reflect. I did that exercise in your essay about making a list of all her flaws and strengths and when i look at it, there are so many things i know about her, and except. Anyways i just got to be patient.. Thankyou. HI again. thank you for your reply, i really appreciate your help. Our break lasted a day or so and i called her back and said that it was too hard and we got back together. DUring the day i noticed all the great things about her, and what makes her special. I feel like the reason i think and feel differently about her is that at times i am bored in our relationship. ANd i find myself trying to make our relationship perfect, changing her etc.. I just want to be happy in this relationship and love her for you she is, and at the same time don’t feel like im settling for less with her. Iv’e told her now that i want to slow things down and reflect. I did that exercise in your essay about making a list of all her flaws and strengths and when i look at it, there are so many things i know about her, and except. Anyways i just got to be patient.. Thankyou.

]]> Comment on How do you know you’re really in love? by smiley http://mycontemplativemind.wordpress.com/2005/10/02/how-do-you-know-youre-really-in-love/#comment-57 smiley Fri, 25 Apr 2008 14:42:39 +0000 http://mycontemplativemind.wordpress.com/2005/10/02/how-do-you-know-youre-really-in-love/#comment-57 Maybe you did love. I remember you were sharing that you feel that you do love her but something doesn't seem right. I loved all those I was with previously too. But that does not mean that the relationship was meant to be. I felt the pain of the break up too. But I also learnt after each breakup what went wrong in that relationship and I believe all these lessons make me a better person and help to refine my idea of what I want in a husband. Take the time to really think about the relationship you had. Is it really something you want for life? If she someone you really want to spend the rest of your life with? If so, go get her back! :D Maybe you did love. I remember you were sharing that you feel that you do love her but something doesn’t seem right.

I loved all those I was with previously too. But that does not mean that the relationship was meant to be. I felt the pain of the break up too. But I also learnt after each breakup what went wrong in that relationship and I believe all these lessons make me a better person and help to refine my idea of what I want in a husband.

Take the time to really think about the relationship you had. Is it really something you want for life? If she someone you really want to spend the rest of your life with?

If so, go get her back! :D

]]> Comment on How do you know you’re really in love? by david http://mycontemplativemind.wordpress.com/2005/10/02/how-do-you-know-youre-really-in-love/#comment-56 david Fri, 11 Apr 2008 15:07:01 +0000 http://mycontemplativemind.wordpress.com/2005/10/02/how-do-you-know-youre-really-in-love/#comment-56 HI again this is jesse and i wanted to talk about my relationship.. Well me and my girlfriend decided to take a break and it was really hard for a day and a half, and i was wondering is that what you're suppose to feel for one another to see if you really want them in your life.. We just ended the break pretty fast and we both felt horrible of knowing that this could lead to break up. Relationship can be confusing, i want her in my life, but i curious why did we feel so much pain, and if one of us didn't love eachother would we not have felt any pain during the break.? Thankyou. HI again this is jesse and i wanted to talk about my relationship.. Well me and my girlfriend decided to take a break and it was really hard for a day and a half, and i was wondering is that what you’re suppose to feel for one another to see if you really want them in your life.. We just ended the break pretty fast and we both felt horrible of knowing that this could lead to break up. Relationship can be confusing, i want her in my life, but i curious why did we feel so much pain, and if one of us didn’t love eachother would we not have felt any pain during the break.? Thankyou.

]]> Comment on How do you know you’re really in love? by smiley http://mycontemplativemind.wordpress.com/2005/10/02/how-do-you-know-youre-really-in-love/#comment-52 smiley Tue, 11 Mar 2008 09:12:12 +0000 http://mycontemplativemind.wordpress.com/2005/10/02/how-do-you-know-youre-really-in-love/#comment-52 Just sharing my experience with you! :) I'm glad you're feeling better! Just sharing my experience with you! :) I’m glad you’re feeling better!

]]> Comment on How do you know you’re really in love? by david http://mycontemplativemind.wordpress.com/2005/10/02/how-do-you-know-youre-really-in-love/#comment-51 david Mon, 10 Mar 2008 23:50:08 +0000 http://mycontemplativemind.wordpress.com/2005/10/02/how-do-you-know-youre-really-in-love/#comment-51 You are great, thank you soo much.. And that makes complete sense... I try to meditate everyday, and when i do i feel a sense of bliss and peace with my life right now. And when i think of my girlfriend with an empty mind, it feels great to be with her.. And we can get caught up in our mind. THank you.. You are great, thank you soo much.. And that makes complete sense… I try to meditate everyday, and when i do i feel a sense of bliss and peace with my life right now. And when i think of my girlfriend with an empty mind, it feels great to be with her.. And we can get caught up in our mind. THank you..

]]> Comment on How do you know you’re really in love? by smiley http://mycontemplativemind.wordpress.com/2005/10/02/how-do-you-know-youre-really-in-love/#comment-50 smiley Sat, 08 Mar 2008 04:50:52 +0000 http://mycontemplativemind.wordpress.com/2005/10/02/how-do-you-know-youre-really-in-love/#comment-50 There is a belief that we actually know what we claim we don't know. All we need to do is to look hard and deep enough. There's been occasions where I would sit myself down, remove everything that's in my head, look deep inside myself and ask myself what it really is. I realised that the answer is always in me but I would claim that I don't know because of a conflict in me. Maybe an unwillingness to accept what it really is. I really hope that you'll find the reason for that knot inside you. All the best! There is a belief that we actually know what we claim we don’t know. All we need to do is to look hard and deep enough.

There’s been occasions where I would sit myself down, remove everything that’s in my head, look deep inside myself and ask myself what it really is.

I realised that the answer is always in me but I would claim that I don’t know because of a conflict in me. Maybe an unwillingness to accept what it really is.

I really hope that you’ll find the reason for that knot inside you. All the best!

]]> Comment on How do you know you’re really in love? by david http://mycontemplativemind.wordpress.com/2005/10/02/how-do-you-know-youre-really-in-love/#comment-49 david Wed, 05 Mar 2008 10:10:09 +0000 http://mycontemplativemind.wordpress.com/2005/10/02/how-do-you-know-youre-really-in-love/#comment-49 Thank you for your response. And I understand what you mean. THis is my first serious relationship, and it has been a year and a half so far. Yes. deep down inside something doesn't feel right. As if something is missing. I do love her, yet at the same time i want to feel that love with full content, and not having that deep intuition of something not being right. But for now, I will put your thoughts in action; for instance, practice patience, and see how we grow together. Thank you for your response. And I understand what you mean. THis is my first serious relationship, and it has been a year and a half so far. Yes. deep down inside something doesn’t feel right. As if something is missing. I do love her, yet at the same time i want to feel that love with full content, and not having that deep intuition of something not being right. But for now, I will put your thoughts in action; for instance, practice patience, and see how we grow together.

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